newarenanow wrote: Or find someone that has the same views as you and will go off and spend whatever she wants at anytime, and go does whatever she wants whenever.
That can't be abnormal, but is it? I think humans by nature are greedy. Its a survival mechanism. Even so, you don't seem to meet people who want to live their lives that way.
I don't know. To me, (and this is just me), I think it's human nature to find a companion and seek company. I love having that partnership with my wife. Are there things I compromise? Absolutely. And the same with her. But to me, it's no big deal.
I can still go on my Pitt road trip each year, I still buy a few video games and play them in my spare time, I still get to watch my sports, and she still does her usual stuff.
But if I ever wanted to go out and buy a new car, or go a way for a week, or something big like that, I absolutely would want to consult with her and make those types of decisions together.
Are there times I look back and wish I lived the single life? Yes. But at the same time, I wouldn't never trade my life in and the marriage that i have for that life.
Again, this is just all of my opinion.
If you can find a free spirit that wants to be a "couple" but live a life however she wants to and you do the same, then that is great. You guys will be a perfect match. I just don't know how many people are out there that are like that.
Again, you may want to stay single for a while longer.