Mr. Colby wrote:Are you guys happy with yourselves personally yet? Like is there something you wanted to accomplish in your own life that doing so could lift a big weight and make you happier? If you're happier you can find a partner more easily.
If I were single, I'd definitely let my ambitions out first - improve my stature at work, get my body in shape, get healthier, spend some money on myself (car, apartment, clothes, "stuff"), and really get myself to a place where I'm happy.
Sometimes when you're focused on yourself, a relationship can come out of the blue
Thats definately true. I think I just have trouble getting to that place tho. I work out, own my house, etc but just get bored I guess. I mean the closest I came to proposing was my last girlfriend. I hadnt dated anyone for almost 2 years before here, and all the sudden Christmas eve, a girl I hadnt spoken to since college other than like Facebook messages texts me to drive to pittsburgh and meet her friend. So basically I trusted this girl and went on a blind date a week later and dated for 2+ years. I've had my fair share of dates/hook ups etc since then, but I think its becomming boring (dont take that the wrong way, as hookups being boring) I just mean, its not really what im used to and when its with girls I really dont have strong feelings for, its kind of counterproductive.