Mr. Colby wrote:Are you guys happy with yourselves personally yet? Like is there something you wanted to accomplish in your own life that doing so could lift a big weight and make you happier? If you're happier you can find a partner more easily.
If I were single, I'd definitely let my ambitions out first - improve my stature at work, get my body in shape, get healthier, spend some money on myself (car, apartment, clothes, "stuff"), and really get myself to a place where I'm happy.
Sometimes when you're focused on yourself, a relationship can come out of the blue
I am. Maybe haven't accomplished everything I've set out to do yet, but I'm quite happy with myself. I finally have a job where I can support myself, so it's not like I need a man for that. The closest thing I have to a relationship is Ed, who is in the Army, and stationed in Germany. And yes, he's my emotional baggage. I should just wait, see how things play out with him. But I got that whole biological clock thing going right now, and it's probably not healthy of me, but it's there nonetheless. I feel like exploring what else is out there (which, really, ain't all that much) is the thing to do. Maybe it's not. I really have no idea.