Thread of Love 3.0

[IrishEyes]

Are you guys happy with yourselves personally yet? Like is there something you wanted to accomplish in your own life that doing so could lift a big weight and make you happier? If you're happier you can find a partner more easily.

If I were single, I'd definitely let my ambitions out first - improve my stature at work, get my body in shape, get healthier, spend some money on myself (car, apartment, clothes, "stuff"), and really get myself to a place where I'm happy.

Sometimes when you're focused on yourself, a relationship can come out of the blue

I am. Maybe haven't accomplished everything I've set out to do yet, but I'm quite happy with myself. I finally have a job where I can support myself, so it's not like I need a man for that. The closest thing I have to a relationship is Ed, who is in the Army, and stationed in Germany. And yes, he's my emotional baggage. I should just wait, see how things play out with him. But I got that whole biological clock thing going right now, and it's probably not healthy of me, but it's there nonetheless. I feel like exploring what else is out there (which, really, ain't all that much) is the thing to do. Maybe it's not. I really have no idea.

[bhaw]

Are you guys happy with yourselves personally yet? Like is there something you wanted to accomplish in your own life that doing so could lift a big weight and make you happier? If you're happier you can find a partner more easily.

If I were single, I'd definitely let my ambitions out first - improve my stature at work, get my body in shape, get healthier, spend some money on myself (car, apartment, clothes, "stuff"), and really get myself to a place where I'm happy.

Sometimes when you're focused on yourself, a relationship can come out of the blue

Thats definately true. I think I just have trouble getting to that place tho. I work out, own my house, etc but just get bored I guess. I mean the closest I came to proposing was my last girlfriend. I hadnt dated anyone for almost 2 years before here, and all the sudden Christmas eve, a girl I hadnt spoken to since college other than like Facebook messages texts me to drive to pittsburgh and meet her friend. So basically I trusted this girl and went on a blind date a week later and dated for 2+ years. I've had my fair share of dates/hook ups etc since then, but I think its becomming boring (dont take that the wrong way, as hookups being boring) I just mean, its not really what im used to and when its with girls I really dont have strong feelings for, its kind of counterproductive.

I'd imagine that working from home won't help you meet people. No offense, but sounds like your putting yourself in a situation that's as difficult as possible.

[bhaw]

Ex-g/f just decided to stop by and see me at work. About a year ago she told me she never wanted to talk to me again and to never talk to her again... What the hell man, not cool.

Free roll. Hit it with house money, yo.

I'm getting married lol. The ex that just thought it'd be great to stop bye is a big ball of crazy. The whole never talk to her thing happened because. Tried to get me to break up with my fiancé. The nothing to see here, move along comment is how I'm treating it. It was just super weird and awkward.

You did tell your fiance about the run-in, right?

I didn't see Pavel answer this, but I'm re-emphasizing. Tell your fiancee. There is no fiancee or wife cool enough to not be bothered by you not telling her about that kind of thing.

[DudeMan2766]

Are you guys happy with yourselves personally yet? Like is there something you wanted to accomplish in your own life that doing so could lift a big weight and make you happier? If you're happier you can find a partner more easily.

If I were single, I'd definitely let my ambitions out first - improve my stature at work, get my body in shape, get healthier, spend some money on myself (car, apartment, clothes, "stuff"), and really get myself to a place where I'm happy.

Sometimes when you're focused on yourself, a relationship can come out of the blue

Thats definately true. I think I just have trouble getting to that place tho. I work out, own my house, etc but just get bored I guess. I mean the closest I came to proposing was my last girlfriend. I hadnt dated anyone for almost 2 years before here, and all the sudden Christmas eve, a girl I hadnt spoken to since college other than like Facebook messages texts me to drive to pittsburgh and meet her friend. So basically I trusted this girl and went on a blind date a week later and dated for 2+ years. I've had my fair share of dates/hook ups etc since then, but I think its becomming boring (dont take that the wrong way, as hookups being boring) I just mean, its not really what im used to and when its with girls I really dont have strong feelings for, its kind of counterproductive.

I'd imagine that working from home won't help you meet people. No offense, but sounds like your putting yourself in a situation that's as difficult as possible.

I get what your saying. But Im not being some shut in or anything. Im actually much happier because I feel much more organized in my life and in control not having to travel as much as i have for work since pretty much I graduated college. I live in a smaller town, with not much night life or even decent job opportunity. I truthfully should have at least moved to the Burgh a while ago, as thats where all my jobs have been for the past 6 years, but I've had factors that I really couldnt. I prob just need to get out of this cement comfort zone I've been in.

[Lt. Dish]

I think im becoming a bit too jaded about the whole thing. I'm a good guy with his crap together and like to take it slow and talk, which apparently is not a celebrated idea at 25. Im having terrible luck meeting anybody great and when I think i do I get worried that it will head south.. (see prior experiences above). Any advice to get out of this funk I have been in?

Unsolicited advice from a former Queen of the Failed Rescue Mission: Please don't be jaded. When you're 35, 40, OK, maybe. At 25, nah. Feel good in the fact that you have your crap together and try to let that be enough for now. It's a magnet for someone great, but the pull can take awhile.

(Now I have this in my head -sigh)

[columbia]

Please leave me out of this.

[Lt. Dish]

Please leave me out of this.

I LOLed and I have no idea why. You sound like my dad when he walked in on my mum and me talking about training bras when I was 12.

[columbia]

See the record label above.

[Lt. Dish]

See the record label above.

It's late...haha.

"With you I'm not shyyyy to show the way I feel
With you I might tryyy my secrets to reveal..."

Maybe a good idea is to start a Binder Full of Women. That seems to be the suggestion for the night.

[Lt. Dish]

Caved and decided to try Match.com.

Are there really not any normal single dudes out there anymore?

Normal sucks.

I don't think you want a normal person. I think you want a person whom you are compatible with.

Even if he's a Flyers fan.

God has a sick sense of humor sometimes.

I know a wonderful person who met the love of her life several years ago on Match.com. Married him and has a gorgeous little boy. One story, I know, but it's a good story.

Good luck, Irish Eyes.

[Rylan]

Hookups are awesome for a length of time but eventually empty sex gets old

Did Mrs. Colby type this?

[CERV96]

Caved and decided to try Match.com.

Are there really not any normal single dudes out there anymore?

Good luck. Some people on there just like to talk and turn it in to another form of social media and not a dating site. I hope you have better luck on there than I did. I didn't even get one damn date in the whole 3 months I was on there and figured it wasn't worth my time and money.

I think we are all a little different in our own ways as I am sure you already know that about me. It is just a matter of how or if you can get past their differences. That will determine weather if the relationship can succeed or fail. You will never know if you don't try.

[canaan]

I've been married for a couple of years and were still in love.


i just wanted to balance out all of the sad, forever alone, woe is me stuff going on in this thread.

[count2infinity]

Caved and decided to try Match.com.

Are there really not any normal single dudes out there anymore?

Freecandy + IE

I'm probably too crazy for Freecandy. Errbody knows us redheads are completely nuts.

hmmmm....

[columbia]

Who else is willing to pitch in, so Freecandy and IE can go on a date?

[Rylan]

What do they truly have to lose?

[KennyTheKangaroo]

What do they truly have to lose?

the only thing to lose is a bunch of mope-a-dopes moping on lgp

[IrishEyes]

Caved and decided to try Match.com.

Are there really not any normal single dudes out there anymore?

Freecandy + IE

I'm probably too crazy for Freecandy. Errbody knows us redheads are completely nuts.

hmmmm....

My crazy is the good kind, as in being spontaneous and silly at times. Not the psychotic, I'll slash your tires and hide in your closet kind.

[count2infinity]

so you're trying to say your crazy is cheeky and fun where as their crazy is cruel and tragic?

[IrishEyes]

so you're trying to say your crazy is cheeky and fun where as their crazy is cruel and tragic?

Yes! Just like my shenanigans!

[ulf]

Freecandy said he likes spontaneous shenanigans

[OutofFoil]

I swear to God I'm going to pistol whip the next guy who says Shenanigans.

[Rylan]

Hey ulf, what's that place you like to eat at with the mozzarella sticks and all that goofy *charcoal* on the walls?

[OutofFoil]

<----- grabs his Kimber .45

[Froggy]

IE+ freecandy= freecandeyes?