Thread of Love 3.0

[Sarcastic]

In my experience, there no real subtle way to tell if a woman is into both men/women or just women. I guess its true (as shaf pointed out) that I am more likely to offer up a sports type date than going to the movies or something like that. Don't stick to stereotypes though. Most people don't know I am bi by the way that I act, I usually have to say something in conversation (like saying I'm interested in a girl, or the complaining about women in general) or I just tell them straight that I'm also interested in women.

If I were a girl, I'd be bi. Girls are gorgeous. I don't see what the big deal is for some people. I don't understand why some guys get jealous over that. It's not even be cheating in my book.

[Sarcastic]

And Troy. Locate a big chested girl, point, and say, wow look at that. See what she says. If she hints even a little bit, ask her if she likes girls. It's all in the delivery. Smile and don't make a big deal out of it.

[Rylan]

lololol this thread delivered.

[Sarcastic]

Let's just keep it clean enough that it doesn't get erased.

[Rylan]

The fact that I had to make 3 different ones is quite surprising haha.

[Batman]

Met a girl last night at the bar, and everything was going well.

Same career, interests, etc...

Until she told me she was a Raven and Flyer fan.

Barf.

[ulf]

Met a girl last night at the bar, and everything was going well.

Same career, interests, etc...

Until she told me she was a Raven and Flyer fan.

Barf.

One night out in australia I met an American girl.. So I was talking to her and it was all good, I asked where she's from, she said philly and I walked away. Made for a funny story but she was kinda hot so I'm leaning towards thinking it was a dumb move lol

[obhave]

And Troy. Locate a big chested girl, point, and say, wow look at that. See what she says. If she hints even a little bit, ask her if she likes girls. It's all in the delivery. Smile and don't make a big deal out of it.

This might also lead to the straight girl being kind of disgusted (if she is in fact straight, not a lesbian). I mean, I would be kind of disgusted.

[Rylan]

I mean if a girl thought I was gay and was like "Look at his "(insert whatever the hell it is women oogle)" I would be quite mortified.

[Sarcastic]

And Troy. Locate a big chested girl, point, and say, wow look at that. See what she says. If she hints even a little bit, ask her if she likes girls. It's all in the delivery. Smile and don't make a big deal out of it.

This might also lead to the straight girl being kind of disgusted (if she is in fact straight, not a lesbian). I mean, I would be kind of disgusted.

Not if she has a sense of humor, lol. But as I said, it's in the delivery. You don't want to sound like a creep.

[obhave]

Honestly, if she is flirting back with you Troy she is probably bi or straight. Even if girls are not interested, they tend to respond to flirting in kind. The lesbians I have met would not flirt back with men, they make it clear they see you as a friend and in now way a romantic interest.

[Rylan]

So i've been eyeing a girl at work for a while, but I think she might be a lesbian. I had my most extensive conversation with her after work yesterday and she invited me to go see her band play....we have some mutual connections, so i'm not going to take anything from that. But is there a subtle way to learn if a girl doesn't like men?

Just ask her out. What is the worst that happens, she says no and reports you to HR for sexual harassment and thus ruining your career forcing you to turn into a traveling circus clown where you eventually scare a kid who wallups you in the nuts?

[bhaw]

Met a girl last night at the bar, and everything was going well.

Same career, interests, etc...

Until she told me she was a Raven and Flyer fan.

Barf.

One night out in australia I met an American girl.. So I was talking to her and it was all good, I asked where she's from, she said philly and I walked away. Made for a funny story but she was kinda hot so I'm leaning towards thinking it was a dumb move lol

Pushing away a hot girl (before I was with my wife) just because of their sports affiliation seems silly.

[DudeMan2766]

Yessssss Facebook is awesome. Another ring photo posted by an ex.

Can I post the easy solution of de-friending your exes? Especially if you don't want to see that stuff.

I have zero exes as friends on FB. LinkedIn is fun when an ex searches for you on there b/c it tells you when you came up in a search. If you click on that, it tells you about 1/2 of the people who have clicked on your name from a search, and occasionally I get one to click on my name there.

I get that. And most I do. I really have only had maybe 3-4 relationships in my life I'd deem truly serious. 1 in high school. I dated the same girl my entire time in college, and I dated around since, but have only had 2 serious gf's in that time. I'm not really upset, but this was kind of one years and years ago we grew apart due to distance, never really stopped being friends even tho we'd go huge chunks of time without speaking. Right before she met this guy she's marrying, we went to a couple Pirate games, and any time I was up in Pittsburgh we'd try to meet up. I knew it was going to happen, but when you see it you're kind of like "Damn." And it makes you think. I'd say this girl and my last ex from 2 years ago are the only ones in my life I'm still on speaking terms with, maybe thats why when I find out either are getting married it will inevitably bum me out. I have blocked my last ex from me seeing anything on FB from her even tho we're still on speaking terms. The other ones I dont really care about. But thos two are the ones thats gonna sting a bit.

To sum up though, I am horrible at relationships. Just awful.

[FreeCandy44]

I know how u feel dudeman.

[JS©]

hey, I'm doing my best to leave my past out of this thread.

[Rylan]

Lessons learned at my young age:

1. Get yourself in order. Until that happens you have no chance at having anything meaningful work.

2. You have yourself in order now, don't look or force anything. It won't work and is just a bad idea in general.

3. Ignore all ex's. You left them (or they left you) for a reason, no need to keep them around in your life (there are rare cases, but follow this rule and you will be safe)

4. Have fun. You don't know what is going to happen day to day, might as well enjoy the ones you have.

[Godric]

Those rules are good guidelines for anyone, I definitely have a exception to number 3 though

[FreeCandy44]

hey, I'm doing my best to leave my past out of this thread. ;)

Yeah....me 2. :(

[Rylan]

Those rules are good guidelines for anyone, I definitely have a exception to number 3 though

They are my personal ones. I can definitely see some people objecting, but I haven't dated anyone that I wanted anything to do with after we broke up. I am happier having them out of my life than in.

[ExPatriatePen]

3. Ignore all ex's. You left them (or they left you) for a reason, no need to keep them around in your life (there are rare cases, but follow this rule and you will be safe)

I agree with Rylan on this one, but probably only because I've never had an 'amicable parting' with any ex's that I was ever serious with.

I honestly don't know anyone who was living with, or married to someone, split up for any length of time (> 3 months) and was able to get back together and make it last.

Hell even the folks I know who went through 'trial separations' only one subsequently got back together (that was my cousin and his long time gf, the sad part of that one was that she passed of leukemia a few years later.)

Having said that, I've never been able to hate an ex, to be extremely mad, angry, or even hurt... Sure, but when you've cared that much for someone, I don't see how you could ever hate them.

[Godric]

Ive known a girl since preschool, we went to Sunday school together, We went to camp together as kids and we had the same homeroom 7-12...

We belonged to same pool in the summer too... We hooked up on several different ocassions and we'd chill and talk for weeks and then Id **** up with a poor life decision and she'd almost ignore me .... She graduated 3rd in our class.... I barely graduated.

I saw her at a funeral for a friend I went to Sunday school with about 8 months ago and the connection was still there and it was like the clock went back to when we were kids.... She was in college and I was leaving to go back to cali....

Id drop everything, if the opportunity ever presented itself

[Cagsjr724]

Well I coached my best friend Sammy for her date tonight. Problem is I'm damn near in love with her. I hope her date went well but at the same time I'm sitting here kicking myself in the ass

[Bioshock]

Been 18 months now since i broke away from the girl i dated for 6 years. I don't know if any of you remember the story i posted in the first Love Thread but man... I'm over her and yet i'm not.

I don't think about her in my day to day life but nearly every night now i dream about her. Sucks... (Why i'm awake now)

I still haven't dated anyone. I don't know when that will ever happen. I know my biggest flaw is just getting out there. I'm so guarded that i really don't let anyone know me and yet, i can't figure out a way to change this fact. No problems in terms of socializing since i'm a naturally extroverted person but in terms of actually talking to anyone on a deeper level, i'm a total brick wall. Maybe i'm still damaged. Maybe i'm just not that appealing. Maybe i am appealing and i just don't notice when someone hits on me. All i know is i'm still single 18 months later and when you are 26 with your own place and a good career with a nice car and good friends and yet you're alone, something must be screwed up on my end that i'm not seeing. The problem has to be me because i'm the main variable when it comes to being single. Maybe i'm just a jerk or something and don't see it... Sigh...

To be so fulfilled in every other aspect in life but to have that one gaping hole sure isn't fun.

[Cagsjr724]

Bump for Bioshock and I