by Pitt87 on Tue Sep 25, 2018 4:39 pm
TL;DR -- I had a good friend die last summer, decided to get butt in gear. Made every mistake on the way. 1+ year later, workout 6 times a week, monitor calories in/out, and overall feel stronger and better.
A little details -- A good friend of mine had a heart attack at 36. Greatest wakeup call ever was looking at his parents unable to look at their son in his casket. Then I think about my own little kids and putting them through that at a young age. I was never terribly overweight, but that was almost as bad. 5'7', 190ish pounds, eats and drinks anything, just generally bad shape. On track for similar outcome.
So I started running -- which I hate. Zero outcomes from that. So I add bodyweight exercises -- I feel a little better but still so weak, and becoming disinterested.
So I set goals -- I will manage my BMI, and my resting heart rate -- which is basically like managing the bottom of a funnel with no understanding on inputs at the top, and no management of the day-to-day.
So... I talk to some folks I know who work pretty hard on their physical fitness. A friend of mine lost ~60 pounds in 6 months, and showed me how 3500 cal = ~1 pound, so running a deficit over a week at 7000 calories = 2 pounds per week. Easy. I also talked to another friend who loves the gym who pointed out that everythign else gets easier when you work on your full body strength. He likened it to athletes -- Athletes focus on increasing strength& endurance, and flexibility to avoid injury, not how many miles in what time. Focus on form, increasing load every week, and 2 cardio days a week. Bought a fitbit, which helped. Again, easy. I also talked to a friend who is crazy busy like me but is still able to fit it in. His advice -- a little bit every day is way better than a set schedule that ends up trashed each week because you don't have time -- get some resistance bands, learn to love the hotel gym, and integrate exercise in your life, just like food and entertainment.
I also changed my goals -- Kept an eye on those two items, but I set a weekly goal to exercise 5 times/week including cardio 2x, increase loads by 5 pounds per exercise each week until I hit each target max weight (35 pounds for curls, 45 pounds for rows, etc.) 175 goal weight, and monitored my active minutes, to avoid sitting around so much. Once I started hitting those goals... I became very motivated for more.
Now -- I work out 4 days a week, pick 2 cardio days, was down to 158 at one point, now very comfortable and getting stronger at 165. I manage stress better, I sleep better (my latest trackable is getting a good nights sleep!), I don't beat myself up for eating/drinking too much every now and then, because I know what it will take to correct those actions, and I am willing to work it off -- a lot like budgeting money.
Only 2 pieces advice in this area that I give; First -- Purpose is the best alarm clock. Find a reason to change, and remind yourself constantly. Second -- SMART goals really work. Focus on making incremental gains each week on whatever you do.