Friday Discussion - Getting Married Young

[eddysnake]

never had a thought of getting married, then at 23 met my lady, next thing I know I'm married a year or two later. I was pretty much the 1st of my group to get married, so we said we'd have a good time and wait at least 3 years to have kids. three months later, hello child number 1, four years later, hello child number 3. I guess I'm saying what most people have said. You just don't know until it happens, I wasn't looking, and believe me when I say if it could have happened to me back then, well, it certainly could happen to anyone else at any given time. Now, I'm 31 and usually don't get to sit down and enjoy peace and quiet until 9PM every day. I suppose it's different for everyone, but I'd say don't go looking for it, just enjoy your life and something will happen when it's right?

[columbia]

Also keep in mind that it's important to know who NOT to marry. A lot of people make mistakes and don't realize it until it's too late.

[Idoit40fans]

I don't really like that many people, though.

I love this sentence.

[eddysnake]

As far as kids go.. I think 30 is a decent age to start. No way am I ready for kids yet. 30 seems right though.. that way you're not the oldest parent at their graduation but can still have fun with them when they are growing up.

nobody is really ready for kids, they are crazy, but crazy isn't always bad.

[pittsoccer33]

Also keep in mind that it's important to know who NOT to marry. A lot of people make mistakes and don't realize it until it's too late.

And how can you possibly know your self well enough when youre in your 20s to make that call?

[columbia]

Also keep in mind that it's important to know who NOT to marry. A lot of people make mistakes and don't realize it until it's too late.

And how can you possibly know your self well enough when youre in your 20s to make that call?

Yep, that's one reason to not get married at such a young age.
It works for some (many?) obviously, but people have to be careful.

[eddysnake]

Also keep in mind that it's important to know who NOT to marry. A lot of people make mistakes and don't realize it until it's too late.

And how can you possibly know your self well enough when youre in your 20s to make that call?

I told my wife within a day or two when we met (i was 22?) that I would marry her and I knew it the night I met her. Strange things happen.

[KennyTheKangaroo]

yeah well kenny the kangaroo has heard girls say that too. that doesnt mean it happened the way they thought (hoped?) it would go.

[Kraftster]

I don't really have interest in adding to my circle unless you bring something new to the table that is not currently provided by an existent friend.

so what does krafster bring to the table as a friend (other than a policy of inflated hourly billings)

Where to begin? Wit, intelligence, just the right touch of weird, versatility, good taste. Oh, and hubris.

[newarenanow]

Also keep in mind that it's important to know who NOT to marry. A lot of people make mistakes and don't realize it until it's too late.

And how can you possibly know your self well enough when youre in your 20s to make that call?

I don't know if anyone can 100% say that at any age. I know people that got married in their 40s and 50s and it didn't work out.

Like eddysnake said, just follow life, make the decisions you think are right, and enjoy the ride.

Just like if you rush into things, you can make mistakes, if you wait on things, you could be passing up on a lot of good things. There is no right or wrong answer.

[Rylan]

Marriage is scary stuff man.

[Juice]

Marriage is scary stuff man.

nah you'll be fine

[Rylan]

Are you kidding? My ego + More Than Likely Secretly Hates Me = SCARY

[pittsoccer33]

http://myfriendsaremarried.tumblr.com

i swear i am starting the mens version of this. i already have over a dozen ideas.

even though that blog is women oriented its exactly how most of my friends react to the absurd things i do on the weekends.

[count2infinity]

Getting married in a year. I'll be 26. Is that old or young?

[newarenanow]

Getting married in a year. I'll be 26. Is that old or young?

That is perfect.

[mac5155]

im getting married in less than 9 months and i'll be 25, she'll be 23.

[meow]

I'm getting married in 16 days, I'm 25 and she is 24. Too young?

[slappybrown]

Its not about living up to some predicated social more, but being comfortable in your own skin and your own circle of influence. the rest is just noise. dont be judged, rushed, or motivated into a concept/contract you arent ready for and dont try to talk yourself into it. when its right, its right.

While canaan is obviously a bad person who should feel bad about who he is, this is some of the best advice ever posted on this board.

[newarenanow]

im getting married in less than 9 months and i'll be 25, she'll be 23.

Is she allowed to drive past midnight w/o adult supervision yet?

[eddysnake]

im getting married in less than 9 months and i'll be 25, she'll be 23.

same situation for me 6 years ago, 3 kids later, life is good!

[mac5155]

im getting married in less than 9 months and i'll be 25, she'll be 23.

Is she allowed to drive past midnight w/o adult supervision yet?

Her mom won't let her go get her permit til she finishes the G.E.D. classes.

[shafnutz05]

im getting married in less than 9 months and i'll be 25, she'll be 23.

When we got married, I was 26, wife had just turned 23. For a one-month span every year, I am four years older than her. When we first started dating, I was 23 and she was 19. Giggity.

[slappybrown]

im getting married in less than 9 months and i'll be 25, she'll be 23.

When we got married, I was 26, wife had just turned 23. For a one-month span every year, I am four years older than her. When we first started dating, I was 23 and she was 19. Giggity.

JUST A CHILL ASS BUSINESSGUY DATING TEENS BRAH

[mac5155]

im getting married in less than 9 months and i'll be 25, she'll be 23.

When we got married, I was 26, wife had just turned 23. For a one-month span every year, I am four years older than her. When we first started dating, I was 23 and she was 19. Giggity.

She's a January Bday and I'm a March, so she's only a year older than me for 2 months. more like one though, since she's the 31st and i'm the 14th, and February is a pansy month in regards to days in it.