Thread of Love 3.0

[count2infinity]

whats the group consensus on dating more than one person at a time? i feel like this was much more common a generation or two ago, and nowadays it seems fairly taboo.

might have a bit to do with social media. back then you could probably do it and no one would know any difference. now with facebook and twitter, everyone knows your stuff. Like shad said, if you're open about it and don't pretend like it's a monogamous thing, then I see nothing wrong with it, but it's a lot harder to keep things underwraps now a days.

[Froggy]

whats the group consensus on dating more than one person at a time? i feel like this was much more common a generation or two ago, and nowadays it seems fairly taboo.

The few times I've done it, I felt really bad. I know you're not officially committed to anyone right off the bat, but I still think its kind of a sleaze ball move.

[newarenanow]

With regards to chores, the everyday stuff, we just do on the whim and whoever gets to it first. In that regard, it's probably 50/50, but no one keeps track and it's just one of those "if it's there I'll do it" type things.

There are some chores though that I do every time and she does every time. I cut the grass and take out the garbage. She does all of the "good" laundry, stuff that is nicer and I'd ruin, because I do ruin laundry. She also puts away her clothes and the kids clothes because she knows where all of her stuff goes and she keeps track of what fits my daughter adn what to get rid of. I put away my stuff and whoever gets to the general stuff (towels, wash clothes, etc) just puts them away.

[IrishEyes]

Just a bit of a complaint here. Married guys, either A) wear your wedding rings in public or B) don't flirt with single girls and then when they show interest tell them you're married.

In fact, it's not an OR situation. Do both, okay?

I think it's the women coming on to married men. I'm not "married" yet but as soon as I got engaged, chicks talked to me more.

Then just tell them right off the bat, "hey, I'm engaged," or "hey, I'm married." I don't know about the girls, but I'll move on, honest.

[shafnutz05]

Oh yeah, there's no question that once I got engaged, I experienced a lot more flirtatiousness from the opposite gender. Whether women want to admit it or not, there is a natural and noted attraction to men that are taken by another woman. I think it's part that, and part that once I was in a serious relationship, I stopped caring about trying to play the game, and I think that turns women on as well.

[newarenanow]

I couldn't date more than one person.

1) I'd feel like a sleaze because I wouldn't want it happen to me. I can see if you were just starting dating and went out on one date that week and later that week went on the other. But as soon as a "relationship" forms, I'd have to break off with the other.

2) Even if I didn't think it was sleazy, I'd get caught. I have a hard time lying to people and would just probably screw up.

3) With social media, it's really easy to get caught now.

[pittsoccer33]

whats the group consensus on dating more than one person at a time? i feel like this was much more common a generation or two ago, and nowadays it seems fairly taboo.

There's nothing wrong with this if it's out in the open that you are seeing a few different people and playing the field? However, if you are carrying on the impression that it's a monogamous relationship, it's reprehensible.

Do you think there's a difference between telling the truth and telling them everything?

[shafnutz05]

Do you think there's a difference between telling the truth and telling them everything?

Big time. If you are dating someone, you have no idea what they assume, and it's only fair to let them know right off the bat you are seeing other people.

[columbia]

I know you're not officially committed to anyone right off the bat, but I still think its kind of a sleaze ball move.

That's where it gets weird. I've been in a situation where we were both obviously very into each other, but she said, "Well, I want the option of seeing someone else."

OK, fine: that just means that you're probably not going out with me too.

I was told that I was trying to control her. Actually, no, I'm just saying what I'm comfortable with.

That was an auspicious start and it didn't work out in the long run.

[newarenanow]

Oh yeah, there's no question that once I got engaged, I experienced a lot more flirtatiousness from the opposite gender. Whether women want to admit it or not, there is a natural and noted attraction to men that are taken by another woman. I think it's part that, and part that once I was in a serious relationship, I stopped caring about trying to play the game, and I think that turns women on as well.

I agree with this. Once I got serious with my wife and especially after I got engaged, I noticed that other women would flirt more. And it's probably because I just didn't care anymore and would just be myself and not worry about like you said, playing the game. I think a woman likes a guy that just doesn't care and is themselves.

[count2infinity]

Oh yeah, there's no question that once I got engaged, I experienced a lot more flirtatiousness from the opposite gender. Whether women want to admit it or not, there is a natural and noted attraction to men that are taken by another woman. I think it's part that, and part that once I was in a serious relationship, I stopped caring about trying to play the game, and I think that turns women on as well.

apparently there have been some women that have made moves on me and I have no idea. then my friends tell me and i'm just like, "uhhh...wat?" Like you said, after you're in a serious relationship for a while, you stop caring. You almost become immune to the knowledge that other women could do things that your significant other can do, if you catch my drift. Or at least that's the way it is with me.

[pittsoccer33]

I think it's part that, and part that once I was in a serious relationship, I stopped caring about trying to play the game, and I think that turns women on as well.

Exactly right. Not that you weren't "playing a game," but you had shown that other women value you. At that point you're a challenge. Brushing them off in a nonchalent way isn't playing games, you're just tapping in to a basic emotion.

[MRandall25]

I heard on the radio that couples that split house hold chores 50:50 are more likely to get a divorce than those that don't. Thoughts?

Perhaps it's because they argue over who does what, when those who split it 80-20 and the like don't because the 80 side says "Well, at least they're doing something".

Perhaps the 20 percent is also more willing to help the 80 with chores, whereas the 50 believes they already do too much.

[pittsoccer33]

Do you think there's a difference between telling the truth and telling them everything?

Big time. If you are dating someone, you have no idea what they assume, and it's only fair to let them know right off the bat you are seeing other people.

I assume that until it's on Facebook that shes chasing every guy on East Carson Street.

[Rylan]

Oh yeah, there's no question that once I got engaged, I experienced a lot more flirtatiousness from the opposite gender. Whether women want to admit it or not, there is a natural and noted attraction to men that are taken by another woman. I think it's part that, and part that once I was in a serious relationship, I stopped caring about trying to play the game, and I think that turns women on as well.

A taken man has already passed one woman's test, meaning he is a more desirable compared to the untested commodities, could be a reason no?

[pittsoccer33]

A taken man has already passed one woman's test, meaning he is a more desirable compared to the untested commodities, could be a reason no?

Absolutely right.

[KennyTheKangaroo]

I couldn't date more than one person.

frankly it seems unlikely that more than one person would ever be interested in nanerpuss.

[newarenanow]

I couldn't date more than one person.

frankly it seems unlikely that more than one person would ever be interested in nanerpuss.

There are plenty of lonely ugly girls that would think otherwise.

[Froggy]

I know you're not officially committed to anyone right off the bat, but I still think its kind of a sleaze ball move.

That's where it gets weird. I've been in a situation where we were both obviously very into each other, but she said, "Well, I want the option of seeing someone else."

OK, fine: that just means that you're probably not going out with me too.

I was told that I was trying to control her. Actually, no, I'm just saying what I'm comfortable with.

That was an auspicious start and it didn't work out in the long run. :slug:

I went out with a girl over the summer who canceled a date with me because she had plans with a friend, and the next day, there were pictures up on Facebook of her making out with some dude in a bar with captions saying that it was a great date night. I really didn't care that she was dating another dude, or really even that she lied. I was really just upset that she apparently thought so little of me that she just put the stuff on facebook without even thinking about the fact that I would probably see it.

But no big loss. I just deleted her from fb and twitter, and erased her from my phone and moved on. Weird thing is that she still follows me on twitter, and comments on stuff I post. I think that's sort of sad.


Speaking of Facebook and whatever... Worst part of dating nowadays is that I am a 33 year old man, and I have to contemplate having a conversation with this new girl about changing our Facebook relationship statuses.

[KennyTheKangaroo]

the easy solution is to not have facebook.

[mac5155]

My fiancee's friend is in a relationship (only like 8 months or so) with one guy, having relations with her ex boyfriend who cheated on her with his current gf (which part of me thinks the only reason said friend is going after her ex is to get back at his current gf) and had relations with my best friend prior to that. I think she needs to discover this thread

[columbia]

My fiancee's friend is in a relationship (only like 8 months or so) with one guy, having relations with her ex boyfriend who cheated on her with his current gf (which part of me thinks the only reason said friend is going after her ex is to get back at his current gf) and had relations with my best friend prior to that. I think she needs to discover this thread

I'm going to need a flowchart to follow that.

[meow]

I couldn't date more than one person.

frankly it seems unlikely that more than one person would ever be interested in nanerpuss.

There are plenty of lonely ugly girls that would think otherwise.

Ugly girls need lovin' too.

[pittsoccer33]

the easy solution is to not have facebook.

a recent girl I dated never asked for my last name. if she was savvy enough should could have figured it out from my phone number, but it was almost like some kind of old fashioned courtship. no facebook, no email, no constant ims. that made it much more interesting.

[meow]

the easy solution is to not have facebook.

a recent girl I dated never asked for my last name. if she was savvy enough should could have figured it out from my phone number, but it was almost like some kind of old fashioned courtship. no facebook, no email, no constant ims. that made it much more interesting.

She was Amish, wasn't she?