Sarcastic wrote:I get that. Just that for me personally it was important to get in a relationship where I didn't have to worry abut any BS with the girl getting insecure or jealous and same from my end. I know what some people go through. Well, I won't deal with the stress. I have female friends. She has male friends. It's cool. I had one crazy g/f like that and it was something so horrible I'd never want to live through that again. She would spy on me when I'd talk to female friends, then give me guilt trips like clam up and be all cold. F THAT. I made sure to let my current g/f know that if there is a problem or question, we sit down and talk it out and also that I will never pull any BS on her and she has to appreciate that and just trust me. It's been a nice deal for both of us.
Back in high school/college, I had a similar situation where I dated a girl for like 2 years, and she was super insecure and always would flip out if I talked to other girls, even if they were my friends, and always was questioning me. She would get jealous and turn crazy if there was any hint of me being even friends with other girls. She never trusted me even though I NEVER gave her any reason not to.
Yet, she cheated on me numerous times. To me, I have found out most of the time (not all of the time), if someone has trust issues and gets crazy when you have any relationship with someone of the opposite sex, it's mainly because they cheat and know what they do with members of the opposite sex, so they believe it is like that with everyone.
I'm am so happy with my wife. We have absolutely no trust issues. Mainly because I don't think either of us would ever cheat on the other, and therefore, because we both have in our mind we would never do it, we have a preconcieved notion on that is how a relationshp works, and therefore, we don't worry about the other person. And it is so nice.