Thread of Love 3.0

[Lt. Dish]

the thread of (deg)love

I'm ashamed to be LOLing at this. Froggy, stop it! I'm sorry, Rylan. I mean that sincerely.

There will be other dates, and they will be better. You'll see.

[Rylan]

lol no worries here. If this stuff actually bothered me I wouldn't post.

[Lt. Dish]

lol no worries here. If this stuff actually bothered me I wouldn't post.

How are you doing recovery-wise? Still in rehab or PT?

[Cagsjr724]

I'm a little lost. New girlfriend and I have got along great. I sent her a text Thursday night asking how her day was no response, text her Friday afternoon no response, called her Saturday night and left a message saying "hey is everything ok call or text me when you can." no response. I haven't herd a word from her. I'm guessing it's over, but I also think its lame she couldn't tell me its over and played the ignore game.

Have you heard from her yet?

Yeah she called me Tuesday evening apologizing saying she just got done working 6 double shifts in a row. She said she basically went to work and went home and went to bed. I told her that's all fine and dandy but communication is important to me even in a new relationship and she could have sent me one text explaining the situation. I'm still not sure if I even believe her story but she basically begged me to forgive her and I obliged for now. We're going out Saturday night and I'm just going to take it from there and see what happens.

[Rylan]

lol no worries here. If this stuff actually bothered me I wouldn't post.

How are you doing recovery-wise? Still in rehab or PT?

Cant afford rehab so I just go for walks.

[FreeCandy44]

the thread of (deg)love

To soon?

[Lt. Dish]

lol no worries here. If this stuff actually bothered me I wouldn't post.

How are you doing recovery-wise? Still in rehab or PT?

Cant afford rehab so I just go for walks.

I hope you're feeling better on each walk!

[Bioshock]

Asked a girl to dinner. Shut down decisively...

Oh well...

[Pen48guins]

I guess I'll add my crap. Been chatting up this nurse. Plan to do something and keep getting excuses on why she cancels. Yet she talks or texts me every day and she initiates it. Apparently we are going out Monday and she is "all out of excuses". We shall see.

[Bioshock]

Okay, want a your opinions on this.

I asked the girl to dinner today and she told me no, she has a boyfriend. Fair enough. I'm not into pursuing someone who is with someone. Not that kind of dude.

But... she also asked to keep my number so i left it with her when the conversation ended. Not sure what to make of that.

[MRandall25]

Okay, want a your opinions on this.

I asked the girl to dinner today and she told me no, she has a boyfriend. Fair enough. I'm not into pursuing someone who is with someone. Not that kind of dude.

But... she also asked to keep my number so i left it with her when the conversation ended. Not sure what to make of that.

If you don't mind me asking, what were you guys talking about prior to her turning you down, but still asking for your number?

[Bioshock]

Nothing in particular. I think we were talking about cars.

The point of the conversation was to ask her to dinner though. I met her a few days ago, was blown away by her personality and then worked up the courage to put myself out there today.

[Bioshock]

Also, i feel insanely dumb. Anytime i do that, i'm so damn nervous that i completely sound and act nothing like myself. If i'm hitting on someone that i REALLY like, then it's even worse.

This was the first time in years i felt that nervous and i have asked numerous girls for their numbers or given my own. I was so nervous that i literally got caught in a lie that had really no weight in the conversation. She called me on it and i just said to myself, "Bioshock, what the hell is wrong with you? Why did you even say that?"

I'm a pretty honest dude and i still have no clue why i did that. She probably thought i was trying to be hot **** for something but i have bad foot-in-mouth syndrome when i first meet a girl i really like.

That initial hump is the worst for me. If i get by that i'm totally fine. Hell, i have way more confidence in sex than i do meeting someone new. Just terrifies me.

[Pen48guins]

I think that initial hump is nerve racking for anyone. I just eventually mustered some courage and asked for her number. Got talking. She said she had boyfriend but they broke up and the conversations have picked up more so.

[JS©]

Possible that she's not exactly happy with her situation. Kinda weird that she'd take your number even thought she was with someone.

Then again I'm probably not the best person to ask. I probably should be posting in here more, but something that fizzles after 3-4 days isn't really worth mentioning.

[Rylan]

I think that initial hump is nerve racking for anyone. I just eventually mustered some courage and asked for her number. Got talking. She said she had boyfriend but they broke up and the conversations have picked up more so.

Hehehe hump

[DudeMan2766]

I think that initial hump is nerve racking for anyone. I just eventually mustered some courage and asked for her number. Got talking. She said she had boyfriend but they broke up and the conversations have picked up more so.

Hehehe hump

[no name]

Okay, want a your opinions on this.

I asked the girl to dinner today and she told me no, she has a boyfriend. Fair enough. I'm not into pursuing someone who is with someone. Not that kind of dude.

But... she also asked to keep my number so i left it with her when the conversation ended. Not sure what to make of that.

I would think that is a good sign. A good way to keep her thinking of you is send a massive text to a few people add her in it. some thing like "GO PENS, I hate the flyers" 1. its keeps you in her mind and 2. you might be able to start up a conversation with her if she responds.

[SirMario66]

Going to a pens game tonight as a first date. Any tips on what to do/not to do?

[OutofFoil]

Going to a pens game tonight as a first date. Any tips on what to do/not to do?

That's one heck of a first date! She must be special! Although, if she acts bored, plays with her phone all game, woo's, leans, yells shoot, or wears a blue jersey, you'll know she's not the one.

And whatever you do, don't wear a crazy horse head to the game.

[FreeCandy44]

Expensive first date...

[FreeCandy44]

Take a look at my girlfriend....she's the only one I got.

[Froggy]

that's a cool date, but for a first date, man... i don't know if that's a good idea. one... you're setting a pretty lofty example to follow up to. two... you can't really talk to her much or anything.

or it could be the best idea ever. what do i know?

[FreeCandy44]

I agree..lofty expectations abound after that date.

[CERV96]

Has she offered to pay for the ticket?

Do you plan on buying her anything?

These are just things to think of when it comes to doing this if you ask me. Lots of good signs and bad when it comes to these. Some women will say yes to a Penguin game just to go. I have had women go with me before and never hear from them again. Well, I hear from them again here and there but not as much. It is either they went for me for the sake of just going to a game because they normally don't or I am just not what they are looking for.

A friend of mine explained my situation best. I may as well have "friend" stamped on my forehead. Once someone meets me and realizes I am a nice guy then they automatically designate me as a friend. No one wants a 100% genuine nice guy anymore. I have totally given up I can not be someone that I am not and I refuse to change. I have tried to be the tool bag type but it just isn't me.