Thread of Love 3.0

[Idoit40fans]

Thats fine until one of you are in a relationship, then that would need to end.

[Froggy]

Yeah, that's probably true.


The thing that worries me is that every break up I have means less and less to me. I think the big break up I had 3 years ago left me dead inside, or something

[Idoit40fans]

I had one that crushed me once. I literally didn't consume solid food for about a week and just drank heavily. It was actually just a week of glory now that I look back on it. Haven't really cared about the other ones. Thats probably because I didn't care about those people.

I have always thought I was dead inside though.

[meecrofilm]

I've never had a break-up that's left me feeling like that, so I just know I am

[Froggy]

Well, the big break up was a girl I was with for 7 years, and we lived together, and our lives were so interwoven that there was definitely trauma associated with that... Even if she was an evil selfish piece of crap. I've been in a couple of relationships since then, and they followed the same script. Really cool girl... Seems really good for me... Things go great for like 4 months, and then they get strange and awkward for a couple months before we have a strangely amicable break up in her car outside my house.

[Bioshock]

Well, the big break up was a girl I was with for 7 years, and we lived together, and our lives were so interwoven that there was definitely trauma associated with that... Even if she was an evil selfish piece of crap. I've been in a couple of relationships since then, and they followed the same script. Really cool girl... Seems really good for me... Things go great for like 4 months, and then they get strange and awkward for a couple months before we have a strangely amicable break up in her car outside my house.

Exact same feelings here dude. Was with a girl for 6 years and she was the only person who ever made me feel that way. Ever since, i haven't been able to even come close to that level again. Feels like i'm dead inside.

The last girl i was with only lasted a short while. She was pretty incredible too but i just didn't feel anything like she felt for me. I broke it off and feel regret because she really is a very nice girl who deserves someone who can step up to the plate. I am happy though because she now seems to have found someone who can truly appreciate her.

As for me... yeah... nothing on the inside anymore.

[Froggy]

i can't put a fine enough point on this though... the one i was with for 7 years is a horrible horrible person, and her family is all horrible people. this is not bitterness, but realizations i came to way after the fact.

maybe it's something like I gave so much of myself to someone who not only didn't appreciate it, but actively took measures to break me down, that i'm not really psychologically willing to really invest that much in a person?

or i'm just old, and the prospect of settling down with someone is less appealing to a 33 year old than a 23 year old. who knows?


i mean the last 2 girls i dated were probably the 2 best girls i've dated,so i must be getting better at finding what i'm looking for. but once i get it, i either lose interest, or fail to retain her interest. i just think it's weird that the last 2 relationships pretty much happened the same way.

[Idoit40fans]

or i'm just old, and the prospect of settling down with someone is less appealing to a 33 year old than a 23 year old. who knows?

Its definitely not that. Well maybe for you, but there is no way that is the norm.

[Froggy]

or i'm just old, and the prospect of settling down with someone is less appealing to a 33 year old than a 23 year old. who knows?

Its definitely not that. Well maybe for you, but there is no way that is the norm.

ok, maybe this then... at 23, you have the world ahead of you, and you meet someone and move in together...all normal things. then years down the road, it falls apart, and you're in your 30's and you've just given up

[KennyTheKangaroo]

this page is pathetically mopey. you bums need to stop wallowing in your own self pity and sack up. do you think any woman is going to be remotely attracted to some guy that has such a crappy self image?

[Froggy]

Thanks, random internet character! That will help me forget the relationship that literally ended like 14 hours ago!

[Idoit40fans]

Thanks, random internet character! That will help me forget the relationship that literally ended like 14 hours ago!

I know what well help you forget that. It starts with "lots of alcoho".

I'm not going to tell you how it ends, I can't be giving away this info for free.

[CERV96]

I have never made it past 4 months to be honest. That's like my time frame.

[Idoit40fans]

I'd wager that unless I hated someone, I could make it 4-6 months with them regardless of us actually being compatible. Of course thats easy to say when i'm not just recovering from an ended relationship. Also i'm probably a damaged person. Still though, if you don't stay with people beyond that, I would just assume you were with the wrong person, not that you have some kind of wall you can't get over haha.

[Rylan]

6 and 7 years is a long time to me. I was with someone for 3 and that seemed like an eternity lol

[Froggy]

The times I've dated someone more then a couple times, its been...
2 years
4 months
8 months
7 years
6 months
6 months

So out of the last 16 or so years, I've been in a relationship for 11 of those on and off. In the other 5 years, it alternates between soul crushing loneliness, and total man whoring

[MRandall25]

The times I've dated someone:













That was your much-needed comic relief for the day. I'll be here all week.

[Froggy]

so yeah... broke up with gf on monday, and i have a date tomorrow night. i also have 2 other girls coming out of the woodwork proclaiming interest. what a bizarre week

[Lt. Dish]

Since nothing good at all has happened in my life lately, it is so time to brag. I won free Soundgarden tickets from Colin Dunlap on 93.7 the fan this morning. I am beyond pumped and I saved myself like 130.00. So now I gotta find me a date for the show. Time to get back into shape and find me a woman. I mean what woman wouldn't be wowed by Soundgarden tickets?

Nice work, FC! Love Soundgarden.

[Lt. Dish]

i can't put a fine enough point on this though... .

This part of your post and the topic made me think of this. Your soul will regenerate in time.

[pittsoccer33]

I never realized I was eligible to be a member of a victim group. Behold singlism - the stereotyping, stigmatizing, and discrimination against people who are single.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/bella-dep ... 38009.html

Because singlism is built right into American laws, it is not possible to be single and not be a target of discrimination. If you have followed the marriage equality debate, then you probably know that there are more than 1,000 federal laws that benefit or protect only those people who are legally married. Even if same-sex marriage becomes legal throughout the land, all those people who are single -- whether gay or straight or any other status -- will still remain second class citizens.

I don't want to be a second class citizen

[thepittman]

I never realized I was eligible to be a member of a victim group. Behold singlism - the stereotyping, stigmatizing, and discrimination against people who are single.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/bella-dep ... 38009.html

Because singlism is built right into American laws, it is not possible to be single and not be a target of discrimination. If you have followed the marriage equality debate, then you probably know that there are more than 1,000 federal laws that benefit or protect only those people who are legally married. Even if same-sex marriage becomes legal throughout the land, all those people who are single -- whether gay or straight or any other status -- will still remain second class citizens.

I don't want to be a second class citizen

Everyone is a victim

[Willie Kool]

I never realized I was eligible to be a member of a victim group. Behold singlism - the stereotyping, stigmatizing, and discrimination against people who are single.

Spoiler:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/bella-dep ... 38009.html

Because singlism is built right into American laws, it is not possible to be single and not be a target of discrimination. If you have followed the marriage equality debate, then you probably know that there are more than 1,000 federal laws that benefit or protect only those people who are legally married. Even if same-sex marriage becomes legal throughout the land, all those people who are single -- whether gay or straight or any other status -- will still remain second class citizens.

I don't want to be a second class citizen

Typical. You singles want all the benefits of marriage without any of the work or responsibility. Quit whining and get your *** to the back of the board.

[Froggy]

i would like to add that having kids isn't special. terrible people do it all the time. I would like a little credit for pitching a perfect game (as far as i know) for all these years.

[Troy Loney]

i would like to add that having kids isn't special. terrible people do it all the time. I would like a little credit for pitching a perfect game (as far as i know) for all these years.

Good work, I had an error at 23 and had to take the dirty way out.