Bad with women, yinz have advice

[NebraskaNic]

Yes i've been drinking and i can't complain about the Pens, so I'm making the mistake of starting this thread.

Been single for about a year and a half now. At this point I feel like I'm doing something wrong. Been told I'm too
nice. At 23 all I really want is a date to Jurassic Park 3D.

yeah,I'm posting this here... Fire hcdb.

[MRandall25]

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[NebraskaNic]

Yinz can delete this.

[Letang Is The Truth]

you're gripping the stick a little too tight

[Idoit40fans]

you're gripping the stick a little too tight

This. The problem is you're trying to get a relationship at 23. Try instead to go enjoy your life and it'll come to you.

[Sam's Drunk Dog]

Drunk threads are the best.

[KennyTheKangaroo]

if theres one thing that is for certain, its never your fault that you cant score with the women.

[Froggy]

Be interesting. If you're not interesting, get interesting.

[thepittman]

Buy a motorcycle

[thepittman]

Be interesting. If you're not interesting, get interesting.

This is key, think of how other animals attract mates. Fancy colors, cool junk, and shiny things.

Also the chance of you meeting a woman at a bar that you would want a quality relationship is slim to none. Need to find other hobbies, clubs, or sports to get involved in. Charity work is also a good place.

[Froggy]

Well, be more interesting, but do it for yourself. Don't define yourself by your job, unless you have a really cool job.

Beginner's lesson: steer the conversation into things you are passionate about.

Pro lesson: steer the conversation into things she is passionate about. And do it without being obvious about it.

Nothing ground breaking here. This is really how you should handle every conversation. when talking to girls though, silence is the enemy. Any conversation is better than no conversation. And if she isn't responding, move on and try not to take it personally.

The best advice in this thread, or any of the various threads of love for that matter, is work on starting conversations with strangers. Any stranger. Some dude on a bus? Start a conversation. Some old lady at a grocery store? Start a conversation. its not about flirting, or picking anyone up. Its just practice for when you go for the real thing.

And don't lie to impress anyone. What's your endgame with that? be honest, but definitely showcase the things you like about yourself.

none of this is really complicated. I think sometimes guys forget that girls are not some alien species. They're just people, and really not all that different.

[Idoit40fans]

If you're looking for something short term to the point of being measured in hours...lie away.

Also, girls really are all that different.

[Froggy]

If you're looking for something short term to the point of being measured in hours...lie away. :pop:

Also, girls really are all that different.

Yeah, agree on the first part. If all you're interested is a one night stand, go ahead and lie away. There really isn't any danger of it blowing up in you're face.

Disagree on the 2nd part, but difference of opinion. No big deal

[Idoit40fans]

I guess until you are in the relationship, they are like actual human beings. Once they are comfortable around you though, they are definitely not human.

[Froggy]

And go ahead and try the online thing. There really isn't a stigma attached to it anymore, and its super easy. But be aware that people lie online. they aren't as good looking as their profile picture, and they might not be as interesting when they don't have time to plan out a written response.

If you do go that route, don't waste a lot of time exchanging emails or whatever. You are going to have to meet them all over again when you go out, so the time and effort is wasted. I'd say like 3 emails tops. Then if they don't want to meet up after that, they probably were never going to anyway.


But it is extremely easy as you pretty much remove approach anxiety from the equation.

[Idoit40fans]

Could never bring myself to do the online thing, I would need my first interaction with someone to be in person. I'd probably tear them apart in my mind before even meeting them if I tried it.

[tifosi77]

you're gripping the stick a little too tight

[Froggy]

Could never bring myself to do the online thing, I would need my first interaction with someone to be in person. I'd probably tear them apart in my mind before even meeting them if I tried it.

Fair point. not for everyone, but point being it's not really frowned on anymore, it's easy, it's painless, and you don't have to guess on the status or intentions of a girl before you start talking to her.

[Letang Is The Truth]

Be interesting. If you're not interesting, get interesting.

This is key, think of how other animals attract mates. Fancy colors, cool junk, and shiny things.

Also the chance of you meeting a woman at a bar that you would want a quality relationship is slim to none. Need to find other hobbies, clubs, or sports to get involved in. Charity work is also a good place.

we call this peacocking

Spoiler:

[Froggy]

Haha. I think that idea is pretty hilarious. It's proven to work, though. It's basically about playing the numbers game, though. If you stand out visually, maybe 100 girls will see you. Of those hundred, 3 or 4 at worst are likely to be interested. whereas if you sit in the corner all night, and approach one girl, you have to be 1 for 1.

But if you follow that logic, why not take the money you were going to spend on ski goggles, top hats, and feather boas, and just take out a billboard with your picture and phone number on it?

[Pavel Bure]

1. Quit complaining
2. Go drink with your friends
3. Girls will come
4. You're 23
5. Quit complaining it's unattractive
6. Be confident
7. Kiss the damn girl you nice guy

[redwill]

Maybe women aren't your thing.

[AlexPKeaton]

Wear skinny jeans, grow a neckbeard, and obtain a fedora.

[thepittman]

Wear skinny jeans, grow a neckbeard, and obtain a fedora.

This will cause you to attract men of the same variety

[Hockeynut!]

Be an @ssh**e. Those guys always have a girlfriend.