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Re: Wedding Planning Thread

Postby mac5155 on Wed May 08, 2013 11:43 am

TBH we still havent bought our rings and the wedding is less than a month and a half away :pop:
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Re: Wedding Planning Thread

Postby Sam's Drunk Dog on Wed May 08, 2013 11:46 am

mac5155 wrote:TBH we still havent bought our rings and the wedding is less than a month and a half away :pop:

Well you're going to be in for some fun when you order the rings and they don't come in on time or when they do they aren't the correct size. :pop:
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Re: Wedding Planning Thread

Postby mac5155 on Wed May 08, 2013 11:57 am

haha, we'll survive :pop:
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Re: Wedding Planning Thread

Postby ulf on Sat May 11, 2013 9:42 am

You can't get it back if she doesn't even have it
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Re: Wedding Planning Thread

Postby Fire0nice228 on Sun May 12, 2013 1:20 pm

With regards to the invite list..We had same issue.. my mother/grandmother thought I should invite people that live in Arizona that I dont even know, but they are family. I said no because IF they were to come, its more $ I have to spend. Ugh. Big battle over that. They got an invite.

Same thing with friends of our parents. We don't know them at all but had to invite them. Our parents are paying for some of the wedding, but we're paying for about 1/3 of it and it devolved into, well if you (my fiance and I) don't want to pay for them we'll just give you X amount of dollars less and then we'll pay for their plates. So long and short we have 17 people on our list that we don't know at all.
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Re: Wedding Planning Thread

Postby count2infinity on Sun May 12, 2013 4:13 pm

Luckily my parents and my fiancee's parents are being very cool about the invite list. We told them, we have enough money to invite about 130 people in the hopes of about 100 come (we can afford 130, but would love for it to be around 100). The line HAD to be drawn somewhere in terms of family, and with such a large family on my and my fiancee's side, we had to draw the line at first cousins not being invited. So as far as family it'll be immediate family, aunts and uncles, and cousins that we grew up with (about 3 each).
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Re: Wedding Planning Thread

Postby Lt. Dish on Sun May 12, 2013 4:34 pm

canaan wrote:look at the bright side, people usually forget what they picked much of the reception anyway


8-)
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Re: Wedding Planning Thread

Postby mac5155 on Mon May 13, 2013 11:45 am

photographer/dj meals - same meal as the wedding guest?
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Re: Wedding Planning Thread

Postby cheesesteakwithegg on Mon May 13, 2013 12:15 pm

Fire0nice228 wrote:With regards to the invite list..We had same issue.. my mother/grandmother thought I should invite people that live in Arizona that I dont even know, but they are family. I said no because IF they were to come, its more $ I have to spend. Ugh. Big battle over that. They got an invite.

Same thing with friends of our parents. We don't know them at all but had to invite them. Our parents are paying for some of the wedding, but we're paying for about 1/3 of it and it devolved into, well if you (my fiance and I) don't want to pay for them we'll just give you X amount of dollars less and then we'll pay for their plates. So long and short we have 17 people on our list that we don't know at all.


My grandma wanted all these people invited to our wedding as well (relatives that I either don't remember or haven't seen in 20 years). We didn't even ask, but she offered to pay for them if they came (which none of them did).
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Re: Wedding Planning Thread

Postby Fire0nice228 on Mon May 13, 2013 7:20 pm

mac5155 wrote:photographer/dj meals - same meal as the wedding guest?


We are doing a buffet with fried chicken and roast beef and the sides and told ours they are welcome to enjoy the buffet after our guests have made their first pass through.

Not sure where they're gonna sit though.
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Re: Wedding Planning Thread

Postby Hockeynut! on Mon May 13, 2013 7:41 pm

Fire0nice228 wrote:
mac5155 wrote:photographer/dj meals - same meal as the wedding guest?


We are doing a buffet with fried chicken and roast beef and the sides and told ours they are welcome to enjoy the buffet after our guests have made their first pass through.

Not sure where they're gonna sit though.


As a former wedding photographer, I'd strongly encourage you to reconsider this. The photographer should get fed immediately after the bridal party, otherwise they're sitting around for an hour with nothing to do (who wants pics of their guests stuffing their faces?) and if you make them wait, by the time they do get fed, the bride and groom will be finished eating and ready to socialize (something the photographer will want to cover) so they either get to eat a fraction of their meal or not at all. At this point, they've probably been working for 6-8 hours without any break.

And please, please find them a place to sit. I always found it ridiculously rude to end up at the reception and find out that the bride and groom didn't have a seat for us. People don't believe it, but wedding photography is hard work. You're on your feet almost the entire day carrying equipment, etc. I must have shot at least 20 weddings where the bride and groom didn't take this into consideration and ended up standing for another 4 hours at the reception. It was back breaking. Almost as bad was being seated in another room and having to get up every 3 minutes to make sure I wasn't missing anything while I tried to pound down a meal like Kobayashi. That said, the photographer doesn't need to sit with your guests. A table in the corner was my preference.

Treat your photographer like a guest. They're with you virtually the entire day.
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Re: Wedding Planning Thread

Postby columbia on Mon May 13, 2013 7:57 pm

You still haven't gotten married, mac? :?
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Re: Wedding Planning Thread

Postby mac5155 on Tue May 14, 2013 11:39 am

Hockeynut! wrote:
Fire0nice228 wrote:
mac5155 wrote:photographer/dj meals - same meal as the wedding guest?


We are doing a buffet with fried chicken and roast beef and the sides and told ours they are welcome to enjoy the buffet after our guests have made their first pass through.

Not sure where they're gonna sit though.


As a former wedding photographer, I'd strongly encourage you to reconsider this. The photographer should get fed immediately after the bridal party, otherwise they're sitting around for an hour with nothing to do (who wants pics of their guests stuffing their faces?) and if you make them wait, by the time they do get fed, the bride and groom will be finished eating and ready to socialize (something the photographer will want to cover) so they either get to eat a fraction of their meal or not at all. At this point, they've probably been working for 6-8 hours without any break.

And please, please find them a place to sit. I always found it ridiculously rude to end up at the reception and find out that the bride and groom didn't have a seat for us. People don't believe it, but wedding photography is hard work. You're on your feet almost the entire day carrying equipment, etc. I must have shot at least 20 weddings where the bride and groom didn't take this into consideration and ended up standing for another 4 hours at the reception. It was back breaking. Almost as bad was being seated in another room and having to get up every 3 minutes to make sure I wasn't missing anything while I tried to pound down a meal like Kobayashi. That said, the photographer doesn't need to sit with your guests. A table in the corner was my preference.

Treat your photographer like a guest. They're with you virtually the entire day.


Yeah, I would definitely heed this advice FOI.
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Re: Wedding Planning Thread

Postby Fire0nice228 on Tue May 14, 2013 12:22 pm

Yeah that makes pretty good sense. We'll change it up.

We will make a seat for them for sure, but tbh, for what photo/dj costs, if they wern't in some pain at the end of the night I'd be disappointed ;)

We got our invitations through Vista Print/Groupon and they got delivered and not everything fits in the envelopes as we thought it would (and my fiance had called to make sure it would before we ordered) so now I'm dealing with this "catastrophe" today :) End of the day we gotta go buy some A9 envelopes to stick all the material in before sliding that package inside the mailing envelope (I had no idea what all went into this invitation stuff).

Crisis averted.
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Re: Wedding Planning Thread

Postby mac5155 on Tue May 14, 2013 12:24 pm

haha, yeah we didnt realize our invites didnt come with inner envelopes, and that was our way of specifying who got to come. Oh well, they just had all their names on the outer envelope.
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Re: Wedding Planning Thread

Postby skullman80 on Tue May 14, 2013 12:31 pm

I'm honestly glad my wedding is over with. So much less stress now haha.
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Re: Wedding Planning Thread

Postby mac5155 on Tue May 14, 2013 12:33 pm

I just cant wait to get back to being able to spend money on things and not be such a tight wad.
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Re: Wedding Planning Thread

Postby skullman80 on Tue May 14, 2013 12:38 pm

Haha. We stayed within our budget. I think we came in right around 8k or so all together for everything. Nothing on credit cards. Has about 125 at the wedding/reception. Mother-In-Law helped us out a ton, and my mom helped as well, plus what we put in. We also did alot of stuff ourselves(invitations/programs/center pieces/favors etc).
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Re: Wedding Planning Thread

Postby BigMcK on Tue May 14, 2013 1:06 pm

mac5155 wrote:I just cant wait to get back to being able to spend money on things and not be such a tight wad.


You'll be married, so 'things' you spend money on will take on a whole new meaning.
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Re: Wedding Planning Thread

Postby mac5155 on Tue May 14, 2013 1:51 pm

BigMcK wrote:
mac5155 wrote:I just cant wait to get back to being able to spend money on things and not be such a tight wad.


You'll be married, so 'things' you spend money on will take on a whole new meaning.


Meh, for the most part, she wants what I want and vice versa. She likes going to hockey games. Likes to shoot guns. Likes to go four wheeling. Why do you think I'm marrying her :pop:
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Re: Wedding Planning Thread

Postby Fire0nice228 on Thu May 16, 2013 12:55 pm

Church called earlier today.. had another wedding booked that they forgot to put on their books. Supposedly this other wedding should have been on the books for over a year. No idea how they caught this. I guess thankfully they did now instead of in september when the weddings are. So long and short they're asking us to accomodate even though we were in the book. Change date (really, you **** serious?!), or time, or location. So mad. We repeatedly asked for some type of contract or paperwork and they said they never did that...now they know why we asked.

Furthermore, the priest who screwed up and didn't put the other wedding on the books didn't call, he had his secretary call. And on top of that, they called my fiances mother instead of calling us directly, so we got this secondhand. Then we had to call the church and talk to someone. That crap really pisses me off. Man up and make the call yourself, and call us not a parent.

So I've got a fiance in tears, all of our invites printed and sitting on the table right infront of me, and its finals week at school. Just what we needed to deal with.

So tonight or tomorrow I'll be calling all of our people and double checking that they have us in their books and on the right date.

ugh!
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Re: Wedding Planning Thread

Postby count2infinity on Thu May 16, 2013 1:07 pm

holy crap... i'd be so pissed right now if that was me.
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Re: Wedding Planning Thread

Postby yubb on Thu May 16, 2013 1:14 pm

This thread is everything I don't like about traditional American weddings. At least I'll know what to look for before I start on mine (should I listen to my girlfriend's demands and propose by January).
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Re: Wedding Planning Thread

Postby pittsoccer33 on Thu May 16, 2013 1:18 pm

almost everything about a modern wedding is pretending like you are much wealthier than you are.

if you have to borrow clothes to go to your own party you're doing it wrong.
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Re: Wedding Planning Thread

Postby Fire0nice228 on Thu May 16, 2013 1:32 pm

That is true and even moreso its basically about throwing a big expensive party for some people you know, some you don't, and hope and pray that you get back in gifts and money what you put into it. Sometimes I wish I lived in a simpler time like back in the day the wedding was in the church the reception was tea and lemonade in the basement right after.

And yeah, I still very pissed. Fiance called church an the lady got her to talking about our school ending and all this off the subject stuff and I was like "FOCUS! be angry! Dont let her distract you from the fact that they're screwing us right now! How they gonna fix this?!"

nothing is settled yet but for sure someone is reimbursing us for the invitations, i'm going to make sure of that. Luckily, we are having a 'guest priest' come in from La Roche where my fiance went to undergrad, so this..person..that screwed up and couldnt man up and call isn't the one that is marrying us, its just his church (fiances hometown church) we are using.
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