Idoit40fans wrote:if you meet someone, invite them back to your apartment and they say yes, I think a reasonable person could/would consider that consent if not an invitation to try to "escalate" the situation.
Going back to the apartment is NOT "consent". Unless she says "yes" to specific actions, just her walking into your apartment is not consent to do whatever you want. The yes, was to go to the apartment and continue your interactions. What you must then get is the next "yes" for the actions you want to "escalate" at the apartment. Usually, I'm sure, things escalate when you bring a girl back to your apartment. However, every girl is different in what she wants to do and how far she wants to go. It may be reasonable to think things will escalate, but don't ever say that is consent.