Rylan's Thread of Personal Committed Relationships

[eddysnake]

met my wife in a bar. She had a boyfriend, I invaded, rest is history as they say.

Same.

Country western bar.

Other guy couldn't two-step or 10-step.

21 years later...still married.

that's how you do it, I too won me lady over with dancing. Nice work. Keep up the good work.

[MalkinIsMyHomeboy]

nobody cares about how you guys lived in the 1800s, old people

[blackjack68]

Says the single, non-dancer.

[AlexPKeaton]

If you can dance you probably don't have a problem getting dates.

[shmenguin]

I've gone out with some attractive, interesting girls that I met at bars. But they were all annoyingly complicated and not relationship material whatsoever.

[eddysnake]

If you can dance you probably don't have a problem getting dates.

[newarenanow]

Is he going out just to go out with friends or to go out to meet someone? I never went to the bar with the idea of meeting someone. He should be focusing on going out, having fun with friends and just talking with people. If he meets someone, great, if not that should be great too. The bar scene is way better when you're out with no particular goal in mind other than spending time with friends and having fun.

Also, i'm pretty sure girls are going to have a lot more interest in you when you're just having a good time rather than acting sad and desperate.

This. When I was single, this was my approach. Just went out to have a blast, not caring if I met anyone, and that worked out sometimes, other times it didn't, but I didn't really care either way. If my primary focus was to meet someone, I'd never have fun and probably strike out more often than not.

Just have fun, life is too short, and honestly, that is when you unexpectedly meet "the one".

[Chefpatrick871]

I have a friend who is really in a funk right now in regards to girls. He has been single for a while and wants to find someone. He refuses to find a hookup with tinder, nor will he do the online dating thing. When we go out to a bar he just sits and mops, refusing to interact with anyone, yet complains all night about not meeting anyone new. I've even chatted up some girls for him (that he pointed out as cute) and he didn't even utter a word.

My question... Is there anything I can suggest to him to get him out of the funk? I'm not sure what else I can do as a wing-woman at this point.

Can I inquire about your aforementioned wing woman services?

Do you want me to be your wing woman? I wouldn't suggest it, apparently it didnt work so well for my friend hah

But where your friend fails I succeed, I'm just shy when it comes to making first contact, if someone chats them up its easier to become part of the conversation. Plus I don't mope :)

[shafnutz05]

I have been pretty amazed at how well online dating has done for a lot of people. It's come a long way since the fledgling Match.com like 10-15 years ago. I can think of two or three couples that are very happy now (including one engaged) that met online. It's a lot more common than people think.

[columbia]

Not to mention the LGP romances.

[Crankshaft]

...there is such a thing as LGP romances? wow.

[Grunthy]

The grunthy got engaged last week. Now the planning begins...

[stopper40]

The grunthy got engaged last week. Now the planning begins...

Congratulations

Run away to Vegas, have a party when you get back

[newarenanow]

The grunthy got engaged last week. Now the planning begins...

Congrats!

[PensFanInDC]

...there is such a thing as LGP romances? wow.

People have met and gotten married from the board.

[dodint]

So you're saying there's a chance?

[obhave]

...there is such a thing as LGP romances? wow.

People have met and gotten married from the board.

I can think of two couples, not sure how many I am missing.

[newarenanow]

Who got married?

[CBear3]

Congrats Grunthy.

As for meeting people, I met my wife in college. We lived in the same building, and I bumped into her and some mutual acquaintances having a conversation in one of the common areas. I joined in and was definitely attracted to her. She found me curious at best.
A week or two went by and we had one of those awesome February days when its sunny and 55 out. I spent all day in the lab working on a paper, staring out at the sunshine. By the time I walked out the sun was setting, the cold front had arrived, the wind was whipping and it felt like a blizzard was approaching.

I walked right up to her door and told her how I'd wasted the most beautiful day of the semester and I needed to do something amazing to make it up, So come to dinner with me tonight. The rest is history.

A) I have the intestinal fortitude of a field mouse. I'll never know what made me go ask her out as brazenly as I did.
B) She worked 5 nights out of 7 and I worked weekends back home. What are the chances she was even home with that schedule.

Moral of the story, finding somebody to stomach enough to have a relationship with is hard. Finding somebody you want to spend your entire life with requires some sort of astronomical luck. There's no magic formula, just enjoy the day as it comes and be happy with yourself.

[MalkinIsMyHomeboy]

there should be an LGP matchmaker thread

I need to find me some LGP hunnies

[shafnutz05]

Who got married?

Careless whispers?

[newarenanow]

Who got married?

Careless whispers?

Damn you!

[stopper40]

there should be an LGP matchmaker thread

I need to find me some LGP hunnies

Not a bad idea, but what happens if/when things go bad for someone. Could get really ugly in here

[obhave]

I don't think the male female ratio is benefitical to straight lgp males

[columbia]

I need to find me some LGP hunnies

Maybe obhave can be your wing woman in LGP chat.